Finding your North Star

So I’ve been sitting in a computer desk most of my life trying to follow the path everyone else has wanted for me that I’m unaware of. To finish a degree, be a professional, get a stable job in a promising company, help parents,save money, get married, and have kids.

But, why do I feel as though I am meant to do something bigger on this planet?
I’m a Web Developer and System Admin – and as you techie babes know, it takes logic and creativity to run a program or system. Years of repetitive work undeniably drains our creativity.The boredom can be coming and often leads to demotivation.
When I’m iniside my cubicle, thinking of going out in there is always in my mind. I feel like I am very restricted and not getting the growth I need. When I was there, I can sense the difference of my mindset.
Then, when I quit my 8 hr job ( throws confetti), I know my family, friends and others will always have something to say about me.. my decisions, the out of ordinary lifestyle I have… but you know what?
Life is too good and juicy to care how it sounds.


My friends always see me as a well composed and goal oriented type of person but in reality, knowing what we truly want in life isn’t enough. I literally spent 10 years of my life figuring HOW things will work. Battling between pursuing my passion or following the normal roadmap that society imposed me.

If I pursue my passion, where will I get my income to pay bills, sustain investment and save money for future?

A killer question and a major dream stealing reason why most of us feel restricted.  It’s been a long road of figuring out how things will work. But now, I want to do what I love most. I am booting my business back. Pursuing my passion for Webpreneurship ( A term I created for ways to earn passive income from the web) and blogging without a degree on it, alone in the journey. The most important thing for me is..

I am very happy.

Transitioning my heart out of a corporate career to pursue a different path and to design my own life is not as easy as 1-2-3 but truly a leap of faith. It wasn’t actually a risk though, it was a calculated move as there are smart ways to do prior to leaving your job.


I would like to share this beautiful story that I heard from Eleanor Harding, product manager of Twitter who spoke to the last UX conference: 

There are three Vinegar Tasters:

The first one immediately spits it out and it looks like he’s just eaten a lemon and is worried about lemon seeds wading through his colon.

The second one manages to swallow. But, he doesn’t like it. He doesn’t say anything, his face does all the talking. He has chosen to endure, to suffer through it, in his attempts to attain Nirvana. 

But the third one neither makes a sour nor bitter face, and he swallows the vinegar right down. Yet, you will notice he is smiling. He is smiling because he realizes that what he is tasting is exactly as vinegar is supposed to taste. He just enjoys vinegar for being what it is.

“Sourness and Bitterness come from the interfering and unappreciative mind. Life itself, when understood and utilized for what it is, is sweet.  -Benjamin Hoff “

There are no shortcuts in Finding that North Star. We will experience confusion, self-doubt, and failures but we should accept that those are just some of the drawbacks of choosing a different path. It can be a journey full adventures, challenges, learnings and loneliness. That’s normal. Keep moving forward until you know that it’s done.

So to anyone that keeps putting off the first because you’re scared. I know one day you would we able to do it!

Huge shout out to all in here who are making their dreams come true!


With so much love and happiness,


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  • KK
    January 6, 2020

    Hart hart hart hart hart hart hart thissssss! More!!!!!

    • Carine May Virtus
      January 8, 2020

      Thank you KK. Will do as I got inspired by your comment 😉

  • Chino Dela Cruz
    January 23, 2020

    Interesting. Keep it up 👏👏👏

    • carine
      January 30, 2020

      Thank you so much for reading my post @Chino! 😊

    January 26, 2020

    Awesome post! Keep up the great work! 🙂

    • carine
      January 30, 2020

      Thank you for stopping by and for reading my blog post 😊

  • Aggie
    March 4, 2020

    Beautiful! I relate on so many levels, having stopped working after 14 years to be a stay at home mom and business woman. May God prosper our dreams!

  • Cherrie Ann Balictar
    March 5, 2020

    OMG, I can definitely relate to this. Doubts and failures are part of the journey. We should always fight and not surrender.

  • Belle Liebe
    March 10, 2020

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